How do I address my concerns with my child’s teacher?

Written by Tina Myrteza

March 10, 2022

As a parent you must always be your child’s greatest advocate.  But being an advocate should never turn into aggression, particularly if you feel your child has been wronged.  Keeping the emotion out of a situation is difficult to do, but approaching the situation with calmness and an open mind will ensure that you will be heard.  When first approaching the school with your concerns, consider the following tips;

  • Make an appointment with your child’s teacher first. Going over their head to the Principal shows that you are not willing to listen to their perspective.  In most cases, the Principal will always refer you back to the teacher.
  • Discuss your concerns calmly and ask for the teacher’s perspective. Remember that they are with your child for 6 hours a day, 5 days a week.  They know your child and how they interact with other children.  Your perspective may not always be correct and neither may your child’s perspective.
  • Ask questions about the school’s policy on the issue you are presenting. You may find that actions may have already occurred or there are some things that cannot be done.
  • Ask what can be done at school and at home to support your child with their issue.
  • Don’t expect your child’s teacher to talk about other children or discuss how they are being punished or reprimanded. Teachers are bound by strict confidentiality rules that apply to ALL children.
  • Ask the teacher to follow up with you after your meeting. You’re entitled to hear how your child is being supported.
  • Make another appointment if the issue is not improving or the situation changes.
  • Thank the teacher for their input into the situation. Resolving issues is just another element to their job that requires them to invest additional time and resources into their day. 

As a parent, you have a right to feel heard but remember that by approaching the situation both calmly and respectfully, you are more likely to achieve a better outcome for your child.

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