Making a mountain out of a molehill

Written by Tina Myrteza

February 9, 2022

To a young child what an adult might perceive as a small problem, to them can feel catastrophic! Helping your child evaluate the true scale of their problem can teach them to analyse the severity of the issue and build resilience around a solution. Instead of ‘buying in’ to the catastrophe there are a few questions you can ask your child.

  • Do you think your problem is small, medium, or large? If the answer is ‘large’ then discuss
    ways, they can make the problem smaller.
  • Ask if the problem can be fixed with the help of another person or an adult, or if they might
    be able to solve the problem on their own.
  • Reassess the true size of the problem with your child

As you help your child to determine the true size of their problem, acknowledge and validate how they are feeling throughout the process. How did you feel when you first shared this problem with me? How do you feel now that we have discovered the true size of the problem? What thought processes or actions did you need to take to reach your solution? How has your thinking changed?

If we avoid the temptation to jump in and rescue our child every time they come to us with a problem, we are teaching them valuable skills to become resilient young people. Giving the gift of perspective to your child allows them to see the world in a positive and proactive way.

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